Something to Think About

If you are entertaining angry or vengeful thoughts about someone- even if you never show your anger or seek revenge on that person- you are causing harm. But you aren't causing harm to the one you are upset with; you are causing harm to yourself. By allowing negative thoughts to eat away at you because someone has hurt you or disappointed you in some way, then you are building a wall around yourself. Each negative of hostile thought is like a brick in that wall. The higher you build it, the harder it will be for good thoughts and positive energy to enter. Let go of what you can't control.

(today's horoscope)

"You Look Like..." v.2

Ever since I went natural, I've heard all sorts of references (complimentary and derogatory) to describe the "look" my new hairstyle gives me. One of the more flattering ones is that it reminds some of Rae Dawn Chong.

I had to pause the first time I heard the name.

"Chong... Chong...? Where have I heard that before?"

She wouldn't have by any chance have any relation to the guy in the show 'Cheech and Chong' would she? 

  

Yes!

Not only is she the daughter of actor Tommy Chong, she is an actress who has featured in over 30 films, including my favorite... 'The Color Purple'. And I'm not sure what the movie 'Quest for Fire' is about, but it gives me the impression that she's comfortable with her body, which is something else we have in common.  So once again, I am flattered to be compared to such a gorgeous woman. I can now consider myself to the reincarnated daughter of a pot smoking hippie. Life is good. I started this series to share with you guys my many "twins" of Hollywood... I hope you find them interesting and humorous since 90% of them were mentioned in pick-up lines. Lol.

"Go Tha F@$! to Sleep!"

ha HA! This one is definitely dedicated to my nieces Zoey (7) and Asha (2) who do all things possible to stay awake when it's time for them to go to sleep. I mean, do they think they're going to miss something after the hour of 9 p.m.? I heard a snippet of this nursery rhyme read by Samuel L. Jackson for the new millennium on  Frank Ski and Wanda morning show.  The lifestyle coach himself Kenny Burns apparently is filling in for Frank and had me jammin' on my ride back from dropping my brother off in Alpharetta might I add.

With the spirit of Pulp Fiction and Afro Samurai, Sam says what parents really want to say to their kids after they've worked the last nerve.... in a loving way of course (lol). Anyway, it made me laugh....

enjoy

"You Look Like..." v.1

Folks who compare my looks to somebody else doesn't bother me. Especially when it's with another good looking woman. This green eyed miniature wonder woman happens to be one of them... Mother of 2 beautiful children, wife to a FINE man, actress, lead singer of a rock band... basically the future me.
what can I say?

I'm flattered♥

Do You Know?

            

When you go through your day to day, what is the goal?

To make more than you had the day before,

or are you trying to make a difference?

In someone else's life, or your community?

Every time I attend a funeral, I pay close attention to the eulogy that is inside.

Its amazing how much can be done in such a short time.

It would be a tragedy to live, only to die

with your only accomplishment being something that can't be taken with you:

money.

Since when does it over ride time? 

And when did monetary gain officially define who you are?

So much celebrity goes to waste

with no sense of responsibility.

But there is one... why else do you think you have it?

But to give back

since you're hogging more than your share.

Do you know, what you're fighting for?

Love hard, smile often, lend a helping hand...

after all

it's free...

Fall For Your Type

"All I need is a partner to play spades with the cards up-- all trust!"

I can't explain why

it's hard for me to tell

why this particular "type"

is one I know too well.

Never meaning wrong, but in the same breath not meaning well

breaking me down with their pretty lies

or maybe thats how they "felt"...

at least at the time

cause now I'm alone.

Left to replay in my mind

all the good times, even if they only happened once in a while.

The "type" never has a face

until it's too late.

Their complexities intrigue me,

they are the misunderstood

and like the puppy left in the rain 

I take him in, and fix him a home cooked meal

lick his wounds so they can heal.

Rub his fur in the places that give him comfort

soak his insecurities away in bath tubs and foot rubs...

uh oh... I've created a monster.

A creature so foreign to what I've shown

hyped up on all this love that I've let him borrow,

only a portion given back in return.

A new outlook on life he is given

along with special places he knew nothing of.

A brand new game for his next chick.

Yes, I fall for your "type"

cause everything needs love

and I'm bursting at the seams

living as an example of what everyone thinks is gone

I just can't explain this shit at all,

am I doomed to be used?

Drowning in the fantasy 

of believing in people like you...

Get Into It

                   
Maybe this will help some of you get into the holiday spirit. I know it did for me ;)

NO H8

Steve-O for NO H8

NO GAY MARRIAGE!!! 

But for real, who the fuck cares? If a grown man or woman falls in love with the same sex who are we to get in the way of their happiness? Seeing how they're not hurting anyone or themselves, they're not holding back from uncle Sam... what's the beef? "Well, what about morals?" "What about the children?" What about all the children who are in unstable heterosexual households? What about the people who go to church on Sunday but lie, cheat, and steal during the week? Are we really that afraid of a lifestyle that is only different behind closed doors?

Meeting In The Ladies Room

"there's a meeting in the ladies room"

Ms. Keri has done it again! Providing the clueless men with a self explanatory ditty and encouraging girl power to those who need it most. From the beginning of her career she has shown that you can stress talent while still maintaining your sexy side. Penning the R&B hits '4 Minutes' for Avant and 'Take Me As I Am' for Mary J. not only solidifies Keri's legitimacy in the music industry, but has made her the unofficial Pretty Girl ambassador;

Bad Girls do Bad Things

"I might be bad but I'm perfectly good at it!" -S&M

Every once in a while, I fall weak and peruse page six and..... to no surprise the fickleness of Hollywood's heart is on the move once again. One thing that has always boggled me when it comes to Hollywood relationships is how quickly they are formed and progressed. Celebs switch out lovers like fitted caps and are not thought any less of. Let a 'regular' chick make the same move and she has "smashed the homies" and is made to seem to be of lower caliber. But I digress...

Apparently, after the recent collaboration of 'Whats My Name' the "bad girl" and the Canadian prince have been spotted in bowling alleys and clubs snuggled; a public couple.

The Phenomenon of the "Couple"

Modern day Love is a trip. I grew up seeing my parents/ grand parents/ great grandparents get married young and stay together; showing me the degree of commitment that it takes for Love to work. I navigated my way through life following the vintage concepts from my "love coaches", and looked for the same qualities in modern man. I've been fortunate enough to find Love early, but lost it due to a skewed perception of loyalty and just being plain 'ole fed up. Luckily, I've stumbled upon it again...

Haute

haute [oht]
  -adjective
high-class or high-toned. fancy.

high; elevated; upper

(future) Princess Kate

every princess needs a crown.

Snuggie Sutra

I suppose there are some of us that actually do IT with the lights off. People who are ashamed of their bodies and what they do with them behind closed doors... for whatever reason. Thankfully I'm not one of those people! Lol. But if you happen to be a woman who doesn't like to be looked at while she's performing oral sex or a man with a less than desired physique and don't want to feel self conscious about it, they've got something new out on the market to make your situation go away! Or at least let you have sex with the lights on again!

Tribute

As all women know, we take a huge risk every time we put on a sexy pair of heels. Ankle injuries, circulation problems, tendon and joint pain are all in our future...anything, in the name of fashion.

Shallow L

Sometimes I feel myself caught up in the same shallow cycle: meet a good looking guy, become infatuated with his style, center our dates around night clubs and restaurants, become physically involved, then get to know him.... and wonder why I'm disappointed and telling my friends a story they  know too well. It's the human part of me that can't stop thinking about how well his features come together. The animal in me, that's wrapped up in how his cologne meshes with his body chemistry. I can't lie and say the physical isn't important, I just wish it had less bearing on my decision making.
I've had great conversations with people I wait on, or met through friends. We will share same view points, make each other laugh, and hold each others' interest. But because 9 times out of 10, he doesn't fit the 'mold' I envisioned for myself, and therefore will be placed in my friend pile. I end up choosing the guy that everyone seems to like, and have to end up fighting for the attention of someone who probably has no intention of having something long term. I don't know why I do that, but an unspoken but understood message gets sent to my brain that tells me, "we could never be 'we' ".
But sometimes I wonder.... "could he be the one who makes me happy?" I pray I stop selling myself short, and open myself up to new possibilities. I'll be ready... soon.

Fishes

one of the things I remember and miss is my family's koi pond when I was a teen ager. We each had one that we felt represented ourselves. Mine reminded me of Cleo, from Pinocchio. Being a pisces, I've always felt close to anything that involves water and watching them swim around when I was younger helped me day dream. My dream is to have a koi pond again.

I love the variety of shimmery colors they come in, that they symbolize friendship and love, and the fact that they grow as large as their tank will allow, sometimes reaching in the feet.

They can adapt and survive many climates and conditions, live for centuries, and you can even train them to take food from your hand!

Hands down, the easiest and prettiest pet to have. So be kind and click on my pond to feed my fish, they'll love you forever for it.

I'll leave you with a little folklore:

The Legend of the Rainbow River

Japanese legend has it that every year thousands of Koi, a courageous, strong, and dedicated fish, make a perilous and difficult journey up the Rainbow (or Dragon) river. 

Out of perhaps a million Koi, only once in many years, one Koi is dedicated and strong enough to swim all the way to the head of the river, known as "The Dragon Gate" (or "The Rainbow Gate") and leap from the water. 

He is transformed into a dragon. This tattoo tells the story of this little Koi's journey. Up the inside of the collector's calf swims the determined little fish. Against all odds he reaches the head of the River and leaps from the water. Above the metaphorical Dragon's Gate of the collector's knee, the koi-fish begins his transformation mid leap, becoming a Koi-dragon, before continuing down the outside of the collector's calf as a full fledged dragon.