Sunday, December 12, 2010

Boss or Bitch?

I think I've gotten this figured out: men are more emotional than women. Now before you give me my scarlet letter and begin my trial, allow me to elaborate. Ever since the beginning of time, men are allowed to indulge themselves in what ails them and hand out the excuse "a man's going to be a man" like they're flyers to an event. So according to history and shared egotism, man is doomed to be a fuck up. Seeing how making mistake after mistake is expected and all... Double standards make my ass itch, and no matter how many times I ask my male friends why men can do certain things that a woman "can't", the answers are shallow or non existent.
Growing up, I've been called a "bitch" for not giving a guy my phone number, or a whore when I was older for taking off my clothes for money and it just shows how much men are lacking when it comes to emotional stability. They simply don't know what to do with rejection or seeing a woman have any type of power.

A woman is never supposed to be loud, or driven, or assertive. She isn't supposed to have a connection with an acquaintance of an ex lover or curse. Without being considered a bitch by anyone who doesn't know how to process her position. I hate to say this, but every woman didn't grow up privileged with both parents who nurtured her and made every financial provision to fuel her dreams. Every girl isn't protected and sometimes has to do things she never thought she would have to, just to survive. They grow up to be women who do human things. Even though that fact is ugly, I'm glad that the obvious strong nature of a woman progressed us. Or we would still be wearing skirts 24/7 and would never know the joy of making our own money. I do understand there being certain behavior that wouldn't be wise to indulge in, depending on the situation. For instance, it isn't smart to hop from bed to bed [as a woman] if you're a single parent. But it isn't wise for a single father either; because there is an example that needs to be set. And should keep some selfish impulses in check.

There's a saying that goes something like: "behind every woman is a man ready to exploit them", and women these days have been required [for their own sake] to do their homework and to not depend so much, on someone else. It might be a man's world, but where would it be without the nurturers? Women add a certain something to any man who thinks he has it all. All we ask for is the consideration for us to be a woman and to be appreciated. Because we have something valuable, to contribute.

1 comment:

  1. I can feel that. It's hard for a man to see a woman taking off their clothes as a strength b/c of the women who don't have their head on straight and do that. The women who do have a good mind are definitely strong. I've been privledged to befriend several strippers and have learned that there are clear differences between each and every girl. A lot of these women have a very good head on their shoulders and are suprisingly are able to keep it while being surrounded by not too trustworthy individuals.

    Women do get called out of their name by men that are "tough" but at the same time way more emotional than women. Reading that first line I agreed b/c I think I get way more emotional than my female counterparts but I don't act on it the way other men do. I sulk or talk about it a lot. Men often hold that emotion in.

    In Nicki's case is more seniority than her being female in my opinion. She can't demand the same respect that Wayne gets b/c he has been established longer and when that video was recorded she hadn't even dropped an album. Albeit she has put in A TON of work and deserves respect it is still small in comparison to Wayne. I have to remind myself that sometimes when ppl say slick stuff to me. I've done a lot of work but haven't fully got there. But you are right.. it is also more likely for a man to be called a boss and a woman a bitch.

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