Today is "Daddy's" Day.
No, I'm not talking about the one who you cook for, have pillow talk with, and appreciates all your womanly assets. Today is for the "Daddy's" who help with homework, comb hair, and show healthy examples of what a MAN really is. As I reflect today on my Dad, I can't help but think about how much he means to me and how much I miss him. I know all little girls who had their Dad in their life say this but: "my Dad was the best." With all his strengths I gained a sense of safety; knowing that he would take care of any little thing I needed when I needed it. And with his flaws, I realized that even the one you love (or the one who loves you) is only human and if they happen to fall short, it doesn't mean they love you any less. I can only speak on the relationship of Dad's with their little girls and how important it is to have an active father figure growing up. The realization in the dynamic is much more apparent to me now since I am a woman who has my own set of struggles involving the opposite sex. My Dad passed away when I was 16. I had just went on my first "date" maybe 4 months prior and I never had the privilege to have that heart to heart talk with him about what to look for when choosing a man. I imagine what he would say to me on the phone after a bad date, or all the game he would put me up on... I feel the pain from that with every disrespectful man I encounter. There's so many dudes exhibiting horrible behavior that makes so many women believe that finding a good man is hopeless. The ending result of dealing with poor treatment can be quite tragic: a good girl gone bad... So many women bounce from relationship to relationship anticipating the familiar feel of home. Not necessarily looking for a reincarnated version of your father, but a man who posses the same protecting, providing values that were constantly shown to us fortunate girls growing up. I couldn't imagine the person I would be today if my Dad wasn't in my life, or what my thought process would be like. I am who I am today because of strong men like my Dad, uncles, and Grandfather... thank you all.
For all the future Dad's of little girls, heed Chris' advice: keep 'em off tha pole!
ok, now go enjoy your electronics, sports, and big piece of chicken.
No, I'm not talking about the one who you cook for, have pillow talk with, and appreciates all your womanly assets. Today is for the "Daddy's" who help with homework, comb hair, and show healthy examples of what a MAN really is. As I reflect today on my Dad, I can't help but think about how much he means to me and how much I miss him. I know all little girls who had their Dad in their life say this but: "my Dad was the best." With all his strengths I gained a sense of safety; knowing that he would take care of any little thing I needed when I needed it. And with his flaws, I realized that even the one you love (or the one who loves you) is only human and if they happen to fall short, it doesn't mean they love you any less. I can only speak on the relationship of Dad's with their little girls and how important it is to have an active father figure growing up. The realization in the dynamic is much more apparent to me now since I am a woman who has my own set of struggles involving the opposite sex. My Dad passed away when I was 16. I had just went on my first "date" maybe 4 months prior and I never had the privilege to have that heart to heart talk with him about what to look for when choosing a man. I imagine what he would say to me on the phone after a bad date, or all the game he would put me up on... I feel the pain from that with every disrespectful man I encounter. There's so many dudes exhibiting horrible behavior that makes so many women believe that finding a good man is hopeless. The ending result of dealing with poor treatment can be quite tragic: a good girl gone bad... So many women bounce from relationship to relationship anticipating the familiar feel of home. Not necessarily looking for a reincarnated version of your father, but a man who posses the same protecting, providing values that were constantly shown to us fortunate girls growing up. I couldn't imagine the person I would be today if my Dad wasn't in my life, or what my thought process would be like. I am who I am today because of strong men like my Dad, uncles, and Grandfather... thank you all.
I commend all my Dad's out there who stay active in their children's lives, even when things go sour with the mother.
And single mothers, please refrain from bad mouthing, or keeping a Dad away from seeing his kids. If he doesn't want to be with you, let it burn and move on. Using the kid as a pawn will not only take away great experiences away from them, but make you look like an entire ass when they grow old enough to learn the truth.
For all the future Dad's of little girls, heed Chris' advice: keep 'em off tha pole!
ok, now go enjoy your electronics, sports, and big piece of chicken.
I agree with everything you've said. My sister turned 41 this past Tuesday but she's having a lot of struggles including me being a Great Uncle at the age of 28. I love her dearly and so does the rest of the fam but she has always felt that she wasn't loved and treated the same as my brother and I. Whether true or not it obviously had an effect on her growing up. I kinda disagree with Chris Rock though lol. There's always exceptions to the rule. A man doesn't set out to have a daughter who is a stripper but I don't think a female always strips b/c of abuse and the occupation can really be just dancing with the right person.
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